The accommodations are excellent. The food is better than some 4 star restaurants. They truly do have a chef preparing the meals. That having been said, I do not recommend this facility at all. I was not aware that this is a 12 step program until I checked in at the facility. I knew very little about AA before this. I was almost immediately assigned a "mentor". This person (who is truly very caring, knowledgeable, and sincere) was going to assist me in getting and remaining sober. This sounded great except for the fact that he was a patient in the facility and he was in his fourth trip through rehab. That didn't inspire my confidence in the effectiveness of the program. In fact, of the 25 or so people in the facility more than 20 were repeat customers ( I do not mean to insinuate that they were all repeating treatment at this particular facility).
I realize that the AA 12 step program has assisted an untold number of people over the years, however, it is not for everyone. Judging from the history of most people in the program when I was there, recidivism is a major problem. One person in the program told me he was in rehab for the 18th time. Most of the sessions amounted to being told that alcohol and drug addiction is bad and can destroy your life. Really? The staff emphasized that they WERE NOT able to solve my alcohol problems and that I WAS NOT able to solve my alcohol problems - only God could solve my alcohol problems. At $1000 a day (At this point I will say that Stonegate has an excellent relationship with my insurance plan and my cost was only about $100 a day) I believe a free AA program would be a better value - especially since ONLY God can solve alcohol and drug addiction problems.
The Bible study sessions amounted to a staff member reading a chapter and turning the conversation loose. There was no Bible STUDY. There was Bible reading and some conversation about what the passage meant to each individual. I realize that the Bible can speak to individuals in different ways but there is also a correct interpretation of passages and the staff members do not appear to have any training in this field. In fact, they appear to have very little true knowledge of the Bible.
Because of paperwork or miscommunication some required medication was withheld from me during the first three days I was at Stonegate. This resulted in my blood pressure rising to a dangerous level.
The most disgusting part of my stay at Stonegate was the language used by the staff members. The 12 step AA program is centered around God. I am no prude. There is no curse word I have not used. But, I don't need to hear the staff spewing phrases like "GD" and "MF" during the classes - even during Bible study. When I approached one of the higher ups about this it was indicated to me that I was being judgmental. Apparently the staff is allowed to use the most obscene language imaginable as long as it is followed by the phrase, "Excuse my French".
Stonegate has 45, 60, and 90 day programs. Numerous times, as someone neared the end of their stay, I saw the staff pressure that person to extend their stay. Even the people who were nearing the end of a 90 day program were encouraged to enter a "half-way" type of facility. I wonder if Stonegate is associated with any of the facilities they strongly recommended.
Another portion of this program was particularly offensive. Every Tuesday and Thursday everyone is required to assemble in one of the classrooms. Each person is required to criticize three things about their fellow patients. It can be three things directed at one person or one thing directed at three different people, etc. There are many people (especially newcomers) who feel extremely uncomfortable openly criticizing another person in a room full of people. One exception - the staff is off limits to criticism. If a person doesn't come up with three things they are hounded by the staff until they comply. This is very abusive and, in my opinion, counterproductive. It also contradicts Biblical truths. The staff has no way of knowing what damage this can do or how any one individual will respond. Having a drug or alcohol problem is stressful enough without being subjected to such an abusive situation. Also, this appears to be the session that the staff seems to enjoy the most.
In my opinion this facility is run by unqualified amateurs. If Stonegate averages 25 people a day it will make $9,125,000 in one year. Not a bad take for amateurs. I would never recommend this facility to anyone seeking recovery.